Friday, April 17, 2009

Reaching Out and Searching


I think a lot of the blogging world is still in shock and still thinking about the Spohr family. At least, I am. Heather once wrote about what you can do for parents of preemies who are still in the NICU. I am thinking about getting some parental survival bags together in honor of Maddie. You can find that post here.

Other suggestions specifically for the Spohr family can be found here. When I started this blog it felt really odd to reach out to someone I had never spoken to or met, but I've come to realize the power of a "stranger" and how it can really mean a lot that someone across the country is thinking of you. I hope Heather and Mike are gaining a little comfort from all of our thoughts and prayers.

Meanwhile, as I hug Luke a little tighter, life goes on. We are house hunting in earnest, now. We have a loan approval good for 90 days and have been searching for the right home. I was always an apartment dweller before M and I got married and have never been through this process. I am trying not to panic. I was 30 weeks yesterday and we have a very small two bedroom house that M bought when he was single. We've stayed there because it is almost paid off and the mortgage is low. As usual, we've waited too long to start this process and now I have the sensation that the walls are closing in on me. I don't need a mansion, I just need more space. House hunting in this area is complicated by hurricanes. What is the elevation of the property? Was it damaged during Ike? If it's near the water, will the insurance be too expensive?

My friend, Teal, made the comment that nothing will take you down faster than stress. It's true, and I really try to focus on what is important. We have a house, we are trying to be very careful with our money, we are both working and we aren't struggling financially like so many others. When my blood pressure creeps up, which is has been doing a little bit, lately, I go back to my yoga breathing and try to remember that people have had babies under much worse circumstances. We are all healthy and we have each other.

I guess this is what goes into such a big purchase. I just try to keep telling myself to have some faith - things will work out. Everything will be ok, right?

12 comments:

Cheryl Ann said...

Everything will absolutely be ok. How can it not when you have little Luke's sweet face to look at? Good luck house-hunting! Happy 30 weeks, too ;)

andrea said...

everything will for sure be ok - it might not be today or tomorrow - but it will be fine, eventually! i totally understand....

i hope you find the perfect house!

Fertilized said...

The warm of a bloggers touch from afar is soothing.

Yes, Everything will be alright. We haven't done the adult thing either. Buying a home. Just seems so overwhelming to me. Good Luck to you

Chris said...

It will all be fine! Think of the octomom - her ratio of babies to space is way worse off :-P

Congrats on making it to 30 weeks and good luck finding the perfect home.

lifelemons said...

Everything WILL be okay! I will keep you in my prayers I know how stressful house buying is let alone moving! Ugh, we ended up moving right after I had Hannah, it's a pain! Good luck with everything, I hope you find an awesome home!

Tinker said...

No need to panic about a house. A baby doesn't need much space after all, and much larger families managed fine before we all decided we needed McMansions. Sure, moving house with a newborn in tow isn't fun, but it's do-able; just don't jump into a house you're not feeling 100% about because you perceive a time crunch -- that's sure to bite you later.

seussgirl said...

I agree with Tinker - don't feel that you "Have" to buy any house just so you have one. Remember that the babies will not know or care if they don't have "enough" space, only that they were loved in the space you have. :)

Courtney said...

Just feel confident that while you are reaching out to others in the blogosphere, in turn, others are reaching out to you - sending their good thoughts and hopes that everything you have going on right now falls right into place. :)

Amanda said...

Yes, you are going to be fine. Good luck finding the right house. I can't believe you are 30 weeks already. Where does the time go?

darcie said...

While I know you WANT more space, you don't NEED it to survive - and you will survive...so hang in there. When the going gets tough - just remember that. You should see the house I grew up in - my parents raised 5 kids there - ACK! Even if the 'right house' doesn't come along in the next 10 weeks ~ you will be just fine.
Try and relax and enjoy this time with your little man cuz soon he'll be a big brother! ;)
Hugs...

Aunt Becky said...

The older I get, the more faith I have that everything eventually works out.

La La said...

I KWYM about Maddie. I can't even read their blog at work, I did it twice and both times ended up leaving work early to go squeeze my girls as hard as I could. It's heart wrenching...NO parent should have to go through that...and it could happen to any one. ::sigh:: I wish I could just make it all better some how, some way...

GL with the house hunting! I *love* looking at houses! Moving sucks, but looking is great. ;)